How Righteousness Prevents You from Moving on

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I wanted to talk about righteousness or the amazing satisfaction of feeling right. Now, the first time I encountered my own righteousness was when I was working as a firefighter. I was on the union negotiation committee. We were working with the city to try to hammer out some wage and benefits parity issues with other cities.
I remember we were back in the station house and the president of the union at the time slammed his fist on the table and said, “We risk our lives!” And I remember feeling like, “Damn, that was a lot of righteous indignation.” I thought, “Yeah, but we signed up for that. That’s our job. We trained for that. That’s why we have really good gear.”
I remember seeing this sort of righteousness on him and being like, “Wow, I don’t really like that. That doesn’t feel good.” And I went home after that shift and recognized, “Oh my gosh, I have righteousness too.” At the time, I had a lot of righteousness around my childhood, and how I thought the childhood should have been. There was a lot of blame. I felt very justified. I had the moral high ground. At the end of the day, all of those things hindered my ability to be accountable for my own participation in the family dynamic and to make space for how other people are. Righteousness kept me locked into a cycle of blame and victim mentality.
I think it might even be safe to say that righteousness and victimhood are directly proportional to one another. The degree of righteousness you experience will be equal to the degree of victimization and blame that you carry. At the end of the day, just ask yourself, do you want to be right, or do you want to move on? In order to move on, you have to let go of the blame and the familiar victim story that you have. Can you let it go? What purpose is it serving? You cannot move forward in righteousness. You can only move forward in compassion and love for yourself, first and foremost.
I want to acknowledge how incredibly satisfying it is to feel right. Oh, it is a good drug. That is dopamine of the highest order, and I know why you like it, because I like it too. Who doesn’t love to be right? However, it gets in the way of healthy relationships. It gets in the way of productive work. It gets in the way of healing. I put it to you, do you want to be right, or do you want to move on in compassion and self-love? Whenever you’re ready to put that big luggage down, your emotional freedom is waiting for you. You will need to get off the righteousness pipe, so to speak, in order to allow that beautiful freedom, that liberty to come into your life.
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