The power of sharing your struggles

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Today, I wanted to share something with you that I think is very common, but not really talked about. I just got off a call with one of my clients who is a coach and she’s really struggling with a particular set of limiting beliefs that are getting in her way of being truly authentic and vulnerable in public on social media.
In today’s culture it is critical that we are authentic. If you’ve ever seen Glennon Doyle’s Instagram feed, I have so much respect for this woman. She’s like, “Listen, it’s just a train wreck today, folks.” And what’s amazing to me is the number of people who are on board that train, who are so grateful that there’s a conductor who makes it okay that they feel that way.
Hearing my client’s resistance to being vulnerable, it was very clear to me that in her mind, there was a sacrifice of authority for vulnerability. I want to propose the following idea. It is in fact your supreme comfort in your power and your authority that enables you to be vulnerable and share your authentic self. I think this is a big misunderstanding that the moment you show your humanity, you lose authority. It’s quite the opposite in my opinion.
So for those of you who are struggling with this, and I know for people who are in the coaching business with me, my colleagues and my clients, it’s really important that you allow yourself to share your whole heart with your community.
I know everybody’s saying, “But I do that,” but I don’t think you do. I think that you’re not celebrating your face plants and failures, as much as you’re celebrating your successes, because you think that people won’t be attracted to you as an authority and expert in the field if you share those stories and I humbly disagree completely with that.
I share my face plants. In fact, I make a promise to my community that I’ll share when I have a face plant, when I’m struggling or when I’m having a challenge. I share that first and foremost, because that’s where I learn all my tools and those tools work really well for other people. That’s my training ground.
When you share your shortcomings, your struggles and your challenges, you’re essentially inviting people into your training ground. And that is a very sacred place, a hallowed place. So I want to encourage you to do that and recognize this is the essence of confidence, power, and feeling secure in your personal authority.
If you need any help with this let me know, but I would encourage you to experiment and explore this a little bit. Now, I’m not suggesting that you live your life as an open wound and share that on social media. This is not the Jerry Springer show. What I’m suggesting is you stand in your perfect imperfection and share that experience with your tribe, with your community.
They love it. They will support you and thank you. And they will want to work with you because it’s that experience right there that tells them, “Ah. He or she gets me. They can help me.”
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